Stephanie is a mother of three. All her pregnancies and deliveries were uneventful. She went through the post natal period of her first two children without any issues. However after the delivery of her third child, she started feeling very sad, she would cry for unknown reasons, she was constantly worrying about the baby. She thought about ending her life daily even though her life seemed "relatively perfect". In her words
My postnatal depression snuck up on me as a dark shadow, every morning waking up and noticing a heaviness and blackness to my mood. The only 'comforts' were private fantasies about ending it all, running away, escaping my responsibilities, tearing myself to shreds to try and grasp why I felt so bleak."
POST PARTUM DEPRESSION/ POST NATAL DEPRESSION
The birth of a baby can trigger a jumble of powerful emotions, from excitement and joy to fear and anxiety. But it can also result in something you might not expect — depression. Unlike the baby blues (I discussed in my last write-up), postpartum depression is a more serious problem—one that shouldn't ignore. However, it’s not always easy to distinguish between the two.
Postnatal depression occur in 10–15% of post-partum women usually within 3 months of childbirth.
Those women who are emotionally unstable in the first week after childbirth are at an increased risk of developing postnatal depression.
Postnatal depression is not associated with social class nor number of children one has.
You may go through some of the following. You probably will not experience all of the symptoms
low and sadness
reduced self-esteem
tearfulness for no reason
anxiety particularly about the baby’s health and an inability to cope.
Mothers may experience reduced affection for their baby which may be expressed as Lack of interest in your baby, Negative feelings towards your baby
Worrying about hurting your baby
Lack of concern for yourself
Loss of pleasure
Lack of energy and motivation
Feelings of worthlessness and guilt
Changes in appetite or weight
Sleeping more or less than usual
Recurrent thoughts of death or suicide
CAUSES
There's no single cause of postpartum depression. It may start for no reason. Physical, emotional and lifestyle factors may all play a role.
Physical changes. After childbirth, a dramatic drop in hormones (estrogen and progesterone) in your body may contribute to postpartum depression. Other hormones produced by your thyroid gland also may drop sharply — which can leave you feeling tired, sluggish and depressed. Changes in your blood volume, blood pressure, immune system and metabolism can contribute to fatigue and mood swings.
Emotional factors. When you're sleep deprived and overwhelmed, you may have trouble handling even minor problems. You may be anxious about your ability to care for a newborn. You may feel less attractive or struggle with your sense of identity. You may feel that you've lost control over your life. Any of these factors can contribute to postpartum depression.
Lifestyle influences. Many lifestyle factors can lead to postpartum depression, including a demanding baby or older siblings, difficulty breast-feeding, financial problems, and lack of support from your partner or other loved ones.
RISK FACTORS
Postpartum depression can develop after the birth of any child, not just the first. The risk increases if:
You have a history of depression, either during pregnancy or at other times
You had postpartum depression after a previous pregnancy
You've experienced stressful events during the past year, such as pregnancy complications, illness or job loss
You're having problems in your relationship with your spouse or significant other
You have a weak support system
You have financial problems
The pregnancy was unplanned or unwanted
The Impact of Postpartum Depression on Children
Behavioral problems: Children of depressed mothers are more likely to develop behavioral problems down the line, including sleep problems, temper tantrums, aggression, and hyperactivity.
Delays in cognitive development: Development is often delayed in babies and children who have depressed mothers. They may learn to walk and talk later than other children. They may also have many other learning difficulties, including problems with school.
Social problems: Children of depressed mothers have difficulty establishing secure relationships. They may find it hard to make friends in school. They may be socially withdrawn, or they may act out in destructive ways.
Emotional problems: Studies have shown that children of depressed mothers have lower self-esteem, are more anxious and fearful, are more passive, and are less independent.
Depression: The risk of developing major depression early in life is particularly high for the children of mothers with postpartum depression.
TREATMENT
Self-help for postpartum depression
The best thing you can do if you have postpartum depression is to take care of yourself. The more you care for your mental and physical well-being, the better you’ll feel.
Simple lifestyle changes can go a long way towards helping you feel like yourself again.
Don’t skimp on sleep. A full eight hours may seem like an unattainable luxury when you’re dealing with a newborn, but poor sleep makes depression worse. Do what you can to get plenty of rest—from enlisting the help of your husband or family members to catching naps when you can.
Set aside quality time for yourself to relax and take a break from your mom duties. Find small ways to pamper yourself, like taking a bubble bath, savoring a hot cup of tea, or lighting scented candles.
Make meals a priority. When you’re depressed, nutrition often suffers. What you eat has an impact on mood, as well as the quality of your breast milk, so do your best to establish healthy eating habits.
Get out in the sunshine. Sunlight lifts your mood, so try to get at least 10 to 15 minutes of sun per day.
Ease back into exercise. Studies show that exercise may be just as effective as medication when it comes to treating depression, so the sooner you get back up and moving, the better. No need to overdo it: a 30-minute walk each day will work wonders.
Lean on others for help and support
Make your relationships a priority. When you’re feeling depressed and vulnerable, it’s more important than ever to stay connected to family and friends—even if you’d rather be alone. Isolating yourself will only make your situation feel even bleaker, so make your adult relationships a priority. Let your loved ones know what you need and how you’d like to be supported.
Don’t keep your feelings to yourself. In addition to the practical help your friends and family can provide, they can also serve as a much-needed emotional outlet. Share what you’re experiencing—the good, the bad, and the ugly—with at least one other person, preferably face to face. It doesn’t matter who you talk to, so long as that person is willing to listen without judgment and offer reassurance and support.
Join a group for new mothers. Even if you have supportive friends, you may want to consider seeking out other women who are dealing with the same transition into motherhood. It’s very reassuring to hear that other mothers share your worries, insecurities, and feelings.
COPING WITH POST-PARTUM DEPRESSION
COPING WITH POST-PARTUM DEPRESSION
Find people who can help you with child care, housework, and errands so you can get some much needed rest.
Make time for yourself every day, even if it’s only for 15 minutes. Do something relaxing or that makes you feel good about yourself.
Keep a daily diary of your emotions and thoughts. Let everything out and keep track of your progress as you begin to feel better.
Give yourself credit for the things you’re able to accomplish, even if you only get one thing done in a day. If you aren’t able to get anything done, don’t be hard on yourself.
Give yourself permission to feel overwhelmed.
Remember that no one expects you to be supermom.
Be honest about how much you can do and ask others for help.
PROFESSIONAL TREATMENT
Individual therapy or marriage counseling – A good therapist can help you successfully deal with the adjustments of motherhood. If you are experiencing martial difficulties or are feeling unsupported at home, marriage counseling can be very beneficial.
Hormone therapy – Estrogen replacement therapy sometimes helps with postpartum depression. Estrogen is often used in combination with an antidepressant. There are risks that go along with hormone therapy, so be sure to talk to your doctor about what is best—and safest—for you.
Antidepressants – For severe cases of postpartum depression where you’re unable to care for yourself or your baby, antidepressants may be an option. However, medication use should be accompanied by therapy, and closely monitored by a physician.



